# I want to get cancelled together "Cancelled" is also one of those [[inaccurate words]]. It is not binary. ## Misc on cancellation - Love and hate are beasts, the one the grows is the one you feed. - Punishment does more to hurt those doing the punishing. [[Do not feel hurt and you will not be hurt]]. - Simply pulling weeds does not work. They need to be replaced, crowded out. - Behaviour does not happen in a vacuum. - Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. - Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people. - You can take a problem seriously without picking a polar side - Specifics are important. - I once made friends in detention. - I think punitive measures basically never work long term. [[power vs force]] - [[so we are all god|we are all god]] - Being specific is helpful. Treating human trafficers and mistakes from miseducated people the same is stupid. - Flawed people deserve understanding - Interesting work in the area - [[Waterloo]] program introducing folks who steal to the people who they stole from - Mennonite Central Committee's work on men who abuse harm - Interesting media on it - Bo Burnham's Problematic - Books that relate - ?What is shame good for - So you have been publicly shamed ## A lot of good happened because of the recent pushes for public accountability - Shit was really hard for marginalized folks for a really long time (and still is). While there might occasionally be over corrections, it is a very good that shitty behaviour is less acceptable in society. ## Have you been cancelled? - Have you been cancelled? If so, can we get cancelled together? [[come find me]]. - You are still deserving of love and kindness. - You still have a great deal to contribute to this world. - Truly did something shitty? - Don't hide from it. - People are not the worst thing they have done. - Get a counselor and talk about it - This is an opportunity for you to become a better you. Take shit and grow some flowers. - None of the above means that the needs and feelings of people who have been hurt should not be given appropriate attention. ## Related - [[forgiveness]]