# Social Media (conventional) Also see [[Pro-social mediums]] I am weary of this tool. I might even go so far as to say I [[hate]] it. ## Next step... - Set up auto response - Give the account to a friend and have them change the password - or just delete it. ## Times I am likely to use it... - When I am avoiding something - When I'm feeling down ## Times I am unlikely to use it... - when life is going really really well ## Reasons it is bad for me.. - all the reasons a computer is bad for you - all the reasons a phone is bad for you - a mini-game that can't be won - see [[Stolen Focus - Book]] - The opportunity cost - [[deep work]] - [[the medium is the message]] ## Valid hopes that make social media alluring - wanting to know - what is going on with friends - when upcoming events are - wanting some control over the narrative around me - wanting to be known - wanting to be able to be found - wanting new friends - wanting tighter relationships Notice that is is a poor choice ## Examples of social media actually benefiting me... - ## Social media is a poor choice for... - tighter relationships - Reputation management ## If social media were a party... - it would be a party I would be uninterested in attending. - It shows me people who would not be among my top choices of people to interact with. - It shows me the worse of people. ## I can imagine a better social media - That facilitates people connecting in real time ## When did I join? ~2018 ## Why did I join? - I had vague reasons related to work ## When was it at its best? - shows upcoming events - I could accomplish this by asking friends once a month what is coming up (this has the added benefit of suggesting we should do something together) - I could also find this on Ellie's facebook ## When was it at its worst - [[scrolling]] - ## Why hesitate leaving? - I think mainly the events - It feels like getting rid of a tool that I might need in the future - give the below thoughts, it is preposterous for me to not leave - - [[Facebook]] - [[LinkedIn]] - [[Instagram]] ## Related - I love [[snail mail]] - [[lonely|loneliness]] - [ ] ephemeral social media posts - [[Events]] - [[friends]], [[strangers]], - [[cold start problem]] - [[perfectionism]] - [[Who am I performing for]] - #Time/WasteOfTime - [[activism]] - [[scrolling]]