# Jealousy The fear that you'll lose something you care about (including an opportunity you care about). Strongly relates to [[insecurity]]. ## [[How sticky is the emotion]]? - ## I am jealous right now, as I write this subsection - I miss them - I'd rather be with them - I am scared this is just among the first of many times they will be too busy for me - I thinking this is a problem - I'm thinking about it too much - I'm low-key hurting - I'm blaming an external factor for causing a problem - The feeling feels easy to maintain and continue from moment to moment. #ToResearch what is the phenomena - I think this comes from a vulnerable place - Post jealously revisit... - Worried that dwelling on it will make it pop up again. And honestly it kinda feels like it might. A better tact might be thinking about something else. - ### Another bout of jealousy... - insecurity came up, doing an activity with the person I'm jealous of and they are better at it then me.. - initial response was... I'll just opt out of that activity - Better response...I should take a small step right now to get better at the activity ## I've had partners who got jealous - when they were jealous, they retracted, (kinda like I do), and because they retracted, we were further apart - I should be empathic with people getting jealous - I should forgive myself for being jealous. ## What can this be a #cue for? - Appreciate what I have - Express love - Feel it - Take action - It is a reminder to pay attention to the things you care about ## Misc - re: posessiveness - feels like a poor strategy - running away feels like a poor strategy - ?directly communicating it? - Wouldn't want the other party to feel undue pressure - expression of love and request to make a plan... - feels vulnerable, like an opportunity to be - Feels like I shouldn't always be the one instigating... but also, I'm forgetting when they do, and its okay to be the instigator, just remember you deserve enthusiasm. ## What does it do to behaviour / thought patterns - x ## What does it feel like in the body? - [[where emotions are felt in the body]] ## What are the good things? - [[we contain multitudes]] - Feeling anything is a privilege - ## History with jealousy Seems to be fading the older I get. - I still occasionally feel jealousy, but these days its usually a #Cue to appreciate what I have. Defintely experienced it much more often in the past. I have been jealous - In relationships (super counter-productive) - At work (super counter-productive) - In friends (super counter-productive) ## Related - [[fear]] - [[insecurity]] - [[friendship]] - [[coworkers]] - [[two grape monkeys]] - [[disorganized attachment]]