# Lying [[be here now]]. [[ignore the narrative]]. you have no reason to lie. Be understanding that people will have reasons to lie that you cannot or do not understand. ## A big problem with lying - It takes up mental space - Example, you sneak into a movie, then you spend time worrying that you'll be confronted ## Lying to me... - Would I prefer it in certain circumstances? Probably not. - Would I forgive and understand? Probably. - I hope you aren't sick, I hope you are just busy and taking care of yourself. ## If you've ever lied to me - ## If I've ever lied to you - Chances are I've been honest about it by now. It weighs on me. ## Children lying - If a child is lying, chances are you aren't doing enough to make them feel safe telling the truth. - Also, fabrication is a form of play that they experiment with. It is usually adorable. ## Misc on lying - There seems to be a thing where people begin to believe the lies they tell (you see this occasionally in interpersonal conflict) - ## Related - [[my youth]] - [[stories]] - [[infidelity]] - [[noble speech]] - [[leave what is heavy behind]] - [[so we are all god]] - [[stop making excuses and struggle]] - [[be here now]] - [[sentiment without action is the ruin of the soul]] - [[Embarrassment]] - [[excuses]] - [[silence]] - [[a thousand excuses for others and none for myself]]