# My ideal relationship [[I have changed]] ## A platform for me to... - express myself more fully - be the best me - learn, explore, grow - stay healthy / happy ## Other qualities - Largely independent - Deep love for them - Deep love for me - Stable - Exciting - Turn towards often and conflict well - Strong communication - Balanced give and take - I want to love who I am when I am around them ## Nice to haves... - Same love languages - ?Eventually kid(s) ## Things I do not want... - co-dependence (I assume no but honestly not sure, I err towards no, but some level feels healthy) - them to be my everything - pressure to live a normal life - Bickering, nagging, or other unthoughtful communications - To feel bad about who I am - To be together out of fear - Unnecessarily frequent conflict - [[scary anger at me]] ## Buckets... - romance - physical - logistics - shared activities + relationships - play and laughter - intellectual - parenting - ? ## The partner will... - Have a rich life independent of me