[[let us never text again]] # Texting I find texting to be an often lacking form of communication. ## Texting is bad for relationships... - My grandmother had good friends she'd hear from only every few months or longer - With texting i have occasionally found it is harder to feel close to people because I or they choose not to text inbetween hangouts, which simply wasn't possible before texting... - For example, I have a friend I like dancing with and enjoy seeing but I really don't want to be on my phone texting them - Then there have been people I miss who don't tend to text and then I have felt (wrongly) that means they don't like me as much. ## Drama and texting - Oh the dramas I have been part of that are nothing more than unclear communication and rarely explicit rules of operating via text. ## Texts to me... - I don't know how to respond so I'm going to wait to do so - I might forget - I might wait long enough that its weird to respond - I might feel bad about not responding and feel like its easier to pretend like I never saw it () - I don't open it b/c I'm not ready to respond - What was I hoping for? - Clearer texts... that say... be here at X time tomorrow, we will dance and eat fruit. ## Texts from me... - Why aren't you replying... - I know you have your phone, I know you've looked at it 100 times today. - You reply quickly - I - You don't reply soon enough, the dance was last night, ## Who tends to struggle with text? - ## My own preferences... - Tend not to enjoy conversations via text - Asking me to say how I am via text is like... <-- not going to put this into text either! ## Rules of thumb... - don't text more than the other person - Save anything sensitive for real-time / in person ## Misc - I wonder if there are similar problems for other asynchrnous communication means such as [[letters]] - This medium makes it easier for me to ignore a communication - ex. friend said they just got out of surgery, I was tired so I swipped the notication (I went back after 5min because I felt like a monster for doing so, the response I wanted and ended up doing was offering love and support, which i would have done had they called) ## Related - [[silly texts]] - [[voice memos audio messages]] - [[I tend to pull back when]] - [[phone addiction]] - Key and Peele scene re texting - #Communication