# My birthday My birthday is Nov 23. I'm never going to tell you to make a big deal of it, but I do enjoy celebrating. See [[Guide to showing me love]]. - If you want to wish me a [[happy birthday]], no pressure but try to use other words. Fumble with new ones, use an analogy, let me see that you care enough that words can't capture it. - Ellie always puts in a great deal to my birthday but goes a little crazy doing so, so around my birthday maybe check in with her. ## Lessons learned - Remember that there are better ways to love yourself than self-indulgence - I struggle with planning my birthday. - I might have an easier time planning my birthday if I think about it as an opportunity to bring joy to others. ## Related - [[guide to being my friend]] - [[sensations]] - [[Power of moments]] - [[attachment is the root of all suffering]] - [[I love myself]] - [[I think I might have enough friends]] - [[ennui]]