# Birthdays #AnxietyTrigger - [[perfectionism|perfection is the enemy of the good]], seriously do something even if you think it won't be received well. Why do I find it stressful? - I think I put too much pressure on myself for it to be good - it feels unstructured by default. - it feels unclear - It is open ended. - its not straight forward...its not just giving - Not a good idea to give if they feel pressure to reciprocate - it allows for the default dropping and doing nothing - Remember the example of doing something for Sharon, who you did not need to, you felt like the small thing you did was not enough even though it was more than most ## Your Birthday... There are so many of them! I want you to feel special but I have struggled to remember when they all are and I'm rarely on the platforms that remind me. So...tell me when your birthday is! Especially if it is important to you that it is celebrated. Seriously, tell me when you birthday is, tell me when our mutual friends day is, tell me when your partner's birthday is. If I know about it I can do something for it. If you think it doesn't need to be celebrated, that might be true, but you definitely do need to be celebrated and that is the most likely day for it to happen. For other people, [[early is better than late]].