# apologize Be honest with yourself. If you did something that warrants an apology, apologize. The goal of an apology should not be to stop the other person from feeling how they feel. However they feel is valid and you don't have control over it. It should not be to erase the action as though it did not happen. The goal of an apology is to communicate in a way that helps you understand the hurt you caused and commit to behaviours/thoughts that will stop you from causing that that hurt in the future. ## Disambiguation Sorry is another one of those [[inaccurate words]] - "sorry" - I did something that I understand was hurtful and I am committed to working at this behaviour so I do not do it as much in the future (this is the most important one) - "sorry" - Lo siento. I feel for you. (Ex. I am sorry your dad died, but I did not kill your dad and don't take blame) - "sorry" - I'm sorry for something I should not be saying sorry (ex. I am sorry for taking so long...No I am not, I am taking my time to do something, and while I may wish that I was faster and that you were more patient, I have not done anything wrong) ## Related: - [[forgiveness]] - [[I only say I am sorry when I am wrong now]]