Are you [[attachment|attached]]? [[what am I trying to avoid]]? See [[dukkha]]. # Anger Much of what I call anger may be better described as [[frustration]] . You do not need to feel bad about being angry. [[I want to feel it all]] ## Antidote - [[laughing]] - [[crying]] - [[compassion]] - [[patience is a super power|patience]] ## Anger can be a [[cue]] to... - run - get space ## If you want to express anger, what mediums work well? - ## What is good about anger? - can be great motivator - rage quitting often happens for things you should quit - Anger can be a cue ## Anger at the self - Most common ## Anger for the situation - ## Anger near others - Extremely rare - When it happens it happens near Ellie by the virtue of her being near me. This sucks because while I don't want to be angry near anyone, I especially don't want to be angry near her. ## Anger at others - Extremely rare for me ## (Often) Maladaptive responses to anger - Distraction and [[Numbing]] - Food, drugs, screens - Trying to go quicker ## Dangerous feedback loops - I am angry about my pain, the anger has me tense and breath worse, that makes the pain worse - I am angry at a situation, which makes me more tense and breath worse, which makes me less capable of changing the situation ## Common causes of anger - [[frustration]] - [[pain]] ## Misc - Anger near others is not socially acceptable. - Anger is sadness ![[anger iceberg.png]]